Boundaries are one of the most complicated topics to talk about. When people talk about boundaries that label it as selfish, harsh, and unnecessary, especially when it comes to women reinforcing theirs. In this article, we will be looking at the myths and facts of boundaries.

One thing to understand is that boundaries are one of the healthiest tools to have in your life. It makes your healing journey better, protects your emotional well-being, self-respect, and helps keep your relationships in order. Let’s go over the myths and facts about boundaries.

MYTH ONE: BOUNDARIES ARE SELFISH.

The only people who think your boundaries are selfish are people who gain from you not having them. Boundaries aren’t selfish; in fact, they are the most considerate thing you can do for yourself and everyone in your life.

Boundaries are all about responsibility, not selfishness. They clarify why you can and cannot offer without resentment. It is about honoring your limits and allowing yourself to show up honestly in your relationships. Healthy boundaries protect your relationships, not destroy them.

MYTH TWO:  IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE BOUNDARIES

This myth keeps people stuck in an over-giving and people-pleasing mood.

Your boundaries shouldn’t be compromised just because you have affection for someone. The healthiest relationships have strong boundaries that all parties do not cross. Boundaries create respect, safety, and longevity in relationships. Love without boundaries usually leads to disrespect and burnout.

MYTH THREE: BOUNDARIES MEAN CUTTING PEOPLE OFF

Contrary to popular opinion, Boundaries is not a form of punishment or an excuse for abandonment.

Boundaries are not a means to punish people, but a way to protect yourself and your energy. They are not about them but about you and what you want and do not want in your life. You can keep people in life and communicate your boundaries and what you will not tolerate from them. It is all about your safety and security.

MYTH FOUR: SETTING BOUNDARIES WILL MAKE PEOPLE ANGRY

I would be lying if I told you that no one will find your boundaries unreasonable or be angry with you when you bring them up, but that shouldn’t define you or stop you. The fear of conflict or making other people comfortable shouldn’t be a problem for you.

If people act negatively about your boundaries, it has more to do with them than you, especially when they benefited from you having none.

MYTH FIVE: STRONG BOUNDARIES MEAN COLD AND HARSH

There is a belief that boundaries must be harsh for them to be enforced. The truth is that good boundaries most of the time, are gentle but firm. You don’t need to yell to get the information across. If they want to understand, they will.

Boundaries are never about others; it is all about protecting yourself and putting yourself first, which you need in your life.

Setting boundaries will feel uncomfortable at first, but in the long run, it will be the best thing you can do for your life.

Your peace is worth protecting. GOODLUCK!